Are you feeling empty?
Feeling so guilty that you cannot function?
Are you wondering what the point is?
You are not alone!
When you lose someone you love, you might feel empty, depressed, constantly thinking about your loved one, guilty, bitter or angry and it might seem like there is no point.
If you are having a hard time remembering the good times, finding joy in life, or going back to your routine, you are not alone.
Many people say things, such as “he is in a better place, heaven has gained another angel, she is not in pain anymore.” Such statements are supposed to be comforting, but instead they are hurtful. Most people become uncomfortable when you start to cry and want to change the subject to take your mind off the pain. Others want to know when you will “get over it” or when you will be yourself again. What they don’t know is that you are not the same person anymore, nor will you ever be.
Grief is unique. Every person grieves differently. For some people it might take a month, for others it might take 7 years to feel ready to move forward. For some people it is important that they maintain a relationship with the deceased, for others finding meaning or purpose after a loss is needed. Sometimes it is as simple as realigning your focus, other times there may be deep layers of history that need to be untangled.
You may have realized that life after a loss is not the same as before. You may have noticed that your job or school work, your relationships with your friends and family members, your eating habits, your time spent outside the house are all impacted and it is costing your health and well-being.
It doesn’t have to be this way.
As a counselor specializing in helping grieving adults gain peace and closure, I can offer you ways to honor the memory of your loved one while finding the path to move forward.
Feeling in control of your own emotions can start now.
Getting counseling for grief and loss will help you remember the good times, look at pictures without feeling like you are stabbed, talk about your loved one without fear of being unable to stop crying. You will learn to embrace your relationship with your loved one, enjoy your current relationships, accept the tears and find a new normal.
A lot of people who are grieving become angry and sometimes end up in anger management courses, turn to drinking or sleeping pills because they cannot sleep, take antidepressants because they cannot get out of bed. But usually it is a temporary fix, because it is like trying to heal a broken bone with a band-aid. I would rather give you the opportunity to express your feelings and experience the grief, instead of avoiding it.
I specialize in treating clients who are grieving the death of a loved one. My approach includes different steps and projects. I understand what it is like to be shut down by family and friends who don’t understand the pain.
Take the next step now.
Ready to come to terms with the past and make peace with it so you can find a new normal? Call today. I am here to help you get started.